When they show themselves to you look at what they are showing you...

I've spent too much time giving people the benefit of the doubt. In all reality your gut is always right and the feeling of throwing a grenade out before it blows up in your face is very, very, very refreshing. If they don't do what they say they will cut them loose. If they stumble it is not my job to make excuses for them. I don't even allow excuses for myself. Why should I allow excuses for someone else? If you feel awkward. Pressured or stressed out it is because you have given someone else the control. The simple knowledge that you are in control of your attitude and your outlook gives you all of the power you need to release your stress.